Today is the last day of 2014! I figure I’ll close out the year by stating a few things I learned/observed as I focused on my goals this year.
Listening to my family:
1- First off, I learned that people definitely value being listened to! I could tell this from the reactions from my kids and husband as I did (and sometimes didn’t) listen well to them. But also from my sister who had to have her thyroid removed earlier this year. So many people did kind things for her and her family to help out, but she told me more than once that what she appreciated (and still appreciates) the most is when people take the time to listen to her talk about what she is experiencing.
2- I also learned however, that listening can be very difficult thing to do, It doesn’t seem like it should be, but it requires being in complete control of our thoughts which takes a lot of self discipline! It also requires some selflessness to channel our thoughts in the direction of another person’s interest rather than our own. I still feel like I am struggling so much with this, but I plan to keep on practicing…even into 2015!
3- The final thing I observed is that listening is so much easier when people are talking about something I am interested in. So, while it is necessary to sometimes let people talk about something on their mind, even if I am not personally interested, often what a person wants is to just talk. In these cases I have found that I can actively look for common ground with the person and have a conversation about that. For example, at dinner I have learned that rather letting everyone talk randomly about what is on their minds (which often ends up being senseless giggling or joking, or worse – arguing), instead to suggest a specific topic such as, “Let’s go around the table and everyone tell what they were doing at 11:00 am.” Everyone gets a turn to talk, (there is less giggling and arguing), and I get to listen to things that I genuinely want to know.
Taking Better Care of My Health
1- If I eat junk, I crave more junk. If I eat good food, I crave more good food…and the desire for junk food decreases significantly.
2- It takes a fair amount of fore-thought combined with self-discipline to go to bed early enough for a good night’s sleep. It doesn’t seem like it should be so hard. I’m so tired by the end of the day, going to sleep ought to be the easiest thing in the world…but I have definitely learned that if I want it to happen as early as it should, I have to be very conscientious about it.
3- I also learned that my 5 yr-old is an excellent exercise instructor! 🙂 One day she was adamant that she did not want me to use the TV to play an exercise DVD, and informed me that she would teach me instead. She really got me moving (and herself too)! And it was a fun activity for both of us.
1- I learned that I do not like being constantly busy. I’ve been battling this idea all year, because part of me feels if I am not busy then I am being idle. But I’m starting to think that maybe there is a difference between being “still” and being “idle.” I think the key is balance – I do like to be (and need to be) busy most of the time, but allowing myself to be still sometimes too is something that I think is really beneficial.
2- I also don’t like never-ending to do lists. If I write down everything on my mind to do, the list is very long and impossible to finish! I’ve written so many lists like this, and recently I just quit doing it. Instead, I’m making lists of what absolutely has to be done right away. All of the other stuff I’m just trying to do as the opportunity arises.
3- And, finally I learned that the Rule of 3 works for me! After reading the book “Getting Results the Agile Way” by J.D. Meier earlier this year, I’ve discovered that his suggestion of grouping goals into 3’s is great. Not only did I find it less complicated to have 3 goals for the year instead of 5, but I’ve found it helpful in other ways too. For example on Fast Sunday I always have more than one thing or person I want to fast for, so I have found that choosing three things to focus on each time feels just right. In fact, whenever I really need to focus, 3 often seems to be the right number of things to focus on.
So that’s it for 2014! I think I learned some good things from my efforts…however imperfect they may have been. Tomorrow will be a new year and a fresh start. And I can’t wait to share my 2015 goals in the coming week or so!
What did you learn from your goals this past year?